You know, I have been debating about doing this segment for awhile now. But I think it just needs to be said or vented, however you want to take it. I have something I have to admit to. I am a........Stay At Home Mom!!! THERE....I said it. Now let the shock and horror wear off then continue reading. The comments and statements made to me when I state I am a Stay At Home Mom are.....I don't know whether to laugh at them or be offended by them. Since when is being a Stay At Home Mom a bad thing?? A scarlet letter on my jacket (right next to the food and mucus stains)?
Now in the art of full disclosure, I was not always a Stay At Home Mom. I did have a career before having kids. In fact when I had my first child, I only got to stay home for the first two years then HAD to go to work. I did not WANT to go to work then, but necessity called for it. When will someone give me a valid reasoning as to why I SHOULDN'T be home raising my own kids, my own way, with my own values, and not the values and quirks of a stranger??? Now I am not knocking working moms. As I have said I HAD to work as a mom. But my wonderful hubby affords me the opportunity to be able to stay home and raise all our children, why shouldn't I take advantage of this opportunity? I get told things like "I would go insane staying home"....or...."I want my own career".....or....."what do you do at home?" Really???? A lot of people in my generation had their moms home growing up. Didn't you like knowing Mom was there waiting for you with your snacks and eager to hear how your day went? I did. Wouldn't you like having those daytime hours to get your regular household chores done and then have your weekends to yourself to do what you truly would LIKE to do and not what you HAVE to do?
Again, I will admit, I am currently trying to figure out a career path or opportunity to make money at home. Yep, I am. I do like having money to spend. Don't we all? But I have a higher value to my family being home to get all the kids to where they need to get to so that my wonderful hubby and the kids' other parents can work and not have to worry about taking time off from their job to get whichever kid to whichever appointment or practice. Its covered by the.......Stay At Home Mom. Do I miss conversing with other adults.....most definitely. Do I miss the intelligent conversation.....yep. You know what though, my day will come where I will be back out there working. But I feel so blessed to have the opportunity to watch my children grow up with my own eyes.
So this is what I think. I think my paycheck currently comes from watching my children become the people they are going to be. My paycheck is not a monetary one, but definitely a spiritual one. I value every moment I get to have with my kids, because the path to having kids was not an easy one for me. And maybe the powers that be did that on purpose to make me appreciate them just that much more. Being a mom has been really the only thing I wanted out of life. I already feel that if it is my time to leave this earth I get to leave having fulfilled my dream. I will feel like I have a full life. I will now step off my soapbox and get back to scrubbing the juice stains out of the carpet next to the dog prints made to mud!.
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